A Dream with a Message

Do you ever have dreams that have a real strong message behind them? I had one of those last night… It is the type of dream that you wake up feeling good about yourself, and about life. It makes it even better when you wake up to an uplifting song.

I dreamt that I was at the Mall with Cassie. I am not a big shopper so I got bored pretty quickly. I told her to continue shopping, and I sat down in a courtyard of sorts with a ton of benches and seats. I ended up sitting by a middle aged man. We struck up conversation and somehow got on the conversation of death. He had recently lost his wife. I told him I had recently lost my mom. We ended up just chatting about grief and loss and what we were going through. Through the course of our conversation, more and more people overheard and came over to join us in talking about the loss of their loved one. By the end of the dream there was a big group of us talking about our loss. It was amazing to see how many other people had lost someone close. I would not have thought so many people around me were going through what I was going through. It was nice being able to connect with these people on discuss what we were going through.

It makes me glad that I volunteer at The Sharing Place. It really is neat being able to meet with people that I can relate to, and listening to them discuss their lives and how they are handling things. I think it is good to be open about death and to be able to lean on each other. It makes me want to be more open about the loss of my mom with people, because you never know who you can help, or who can help you by talking about loss.

Anyways, to top off the dream…. I woke up to the song “The Answer Lies Within” by Dream Theater. The line of the song I woke up to (which is my favorite part of the whole song) goes, “You’ve got the future on your side. Your gonna be fine now. I know whatever you decide, You’re gonna shine.”

Then the next time my alarm went off… it was playing my moms song. “If You Sleep” by Tal Bachman. I cannot listen to that song without thinking of my mom. So it kinda validated everything. Oh and the on the way to work I heard the song “ You Are Beautiful” by Christina Agulaira. So my morning started out good!

I guess I can really understand the value of group therapy and group meetings. Just being able to talk freely among other people that understand, is so powerful, and does so much in the way of healing. We have the power to help heal other people by even just sitting and listening to them, and letting them know we understand, or that we have the same emotions. It seems people are so afraid to let their true selves shine, but that only makes them unapproachable, and may hinder their own progression.

It makes me think about the whole infertility deal. I know there is a free group that meets I think once or twice a month. I am tempted to look into it. I think it would be very valuable to me to be able to be surrounded by people that understand what I am going through. I know it would help me to feel not so alone.

Anyways… people are valuable. You never know what you could learn by the person sitting next to you on the bus, or how you might help them in return. So I guess overall… maybe I should strive to not be so shy, and to talk to strangers more (although not in dark alleys or parks with lots of bushes and trees). I feel like I have a lot to learn from people around me, and I can only hope that in the process I could help someone else with their problems as well.